Valentine’s Day: How To Deal With Gaming When It Comes To Relationships
For a holiday that’s always on the same day every year Valentine’s Day has a knack of sneaking up on people as February 14th gets closer. This year Valentine’s Day lands on a Sunday, which means that chances are you and your loved one will be able to spend the day together. If you’re unsure what you and your partner should be doing for this holiday, fear not. We have you covered with how to deal with gaming when it comes to your relationship this Valentine’s Day.
Use Your Gaming Skills In Your Love Life
Whether you realize it or not, most gamers already have all of the life skills and traits that they need to be incredible romantic partners. Gamers are keen observers, patient, strategic, empathetic, and highly intelligent. By using these skills not only for gaming, but also in your relationships, you can develop a loving and successful relationship with your romantic partner. Let’s take a closer look at how the traits that make you a top gamer can translate over to your relationship this Valentine’s Day.
The Art Of Observation
Gamers tend to observe while they’re playing games, looking for little clues along the way that will help them in the future. Gamers can use this same technique to strengthen their romantic relationships. By watching and taking note of all the little things that make your partner happy all year long, you’ll know exactly how to celebrate Valentine’s Day together.
Observing the things that light your partner up are extremely important since each person has their own unique way in which they give and receive love as Dr. Gary Chapman explores in his bestselling book, The 5 Love Languages. The five ‘love languages,’ or ways in which we express and experience love, are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch, according to Dr. Chapman.
So, if you know that your significant other’s love languages are words of affirmation and quality time, you can tailor your approach to Valentine’s Day specifically for them. You can make a card letting your partner know how much they mean to you, highlighting all of the reasons why you love them, and also block out quality time when just the two of you can connect with no distractions. That means shutting your gaming system off and being 100 percent fully present with your partner as you connect with one another. In order for your partner to really feel your love, you need to know what their love languages are. And in order for you to feel loved by your partner, they need to know your love languages, as well.
The Power Of Patience
Gamers know that they’re usually not going to beat the hardest levels in games, or defeat the toughest opponents, on the first try. They understand that gaming is a process and they’re constantly putting the time and effort in to improve each and every day. Gamers can also take this approach and practice patience in their relationships. Maybe a gamer wants to become ‘official’ by this Valentine’s Day, while a significant other wants to take things a little slower. If you’re going through this right now, think back to a time when being patient while gaming helped you out in the long run. Then take that same approach with your loved one, giving them the time and space that they need. Hopefully, it’ll allow you to connect on a deeper level in the near future.
Playing video games together is also a great way for gamers and their significant others to bond this Valentine’s Day. Since gamers spend six hours and twenty minutes per week on average playing video games, they’re probably better than their significant others when it comes to playing most games. That said, if your significant other takes an interest in the game you’re playing, be patient and encourage your partner as your loved one tries to play your favorite game. Don’t make fun of your partner if your significant other struggles to play the game at first. Allow them to make the same mistakes that you did and let them learn along the way. And if your partner asks you for help, be willing to share some of your secrets. This can be a wonderful Valentine’s Day activity that can bring you both closer together as long as you keep it light and fun.
Strategize For Success
As mentioned above, some partners may love receiving gifts, while others may prefer physical touch or acts of service instead. Really think about the key to your partner’s heart this Valentine’s Day. Maybe your gamer significant other loves to receive gifts. What types of gifts can you get the gamer in your life that they’ll really appreciate and be thankful for?
Since the typical gaming uniform consists of a T-shirt and jeans, you can get your favorite gamer specific T-shirts designed for gamers, or even an official esports jersey from their favorite team. You can also get your partner figurines of their favorite characters, video game themed jewelry, a gaming chair with game-specific designs, or digital store credits if you’re not exactly sure what your favorite gamer wants at the moment. Keep in mind that it’s not how expensive the gift is, it’s the thought that went into it that will thrill the gamer in your life.
Or if the gamer in your life is someone who prefers acts of service, maybe you can bake your significant other a gaming-themed cake or cookies as a special Valentine’s Day treat from you to them. That will make your partner so much happier than just going to the store and getting a typical Valentine’s Day gift like chocolates. It’s the personal touch that will make all the difference in this instance since they’ll know that you gave up your time and put the extra effort in to make them smile.
Game designers have been incorporating emotional elements that exist in other forms of media into video games. These types of games have the ability to put gamers in the character’s shoes, making them aware that sometimes in life there isn’t a right or ideal outcome, which can develop a player’s sense of empathy.
Embrace empathy when it comes to your romantic partner. By showing an ability to understand and share the feelings of your loved one, you’re also letting them know that you care. Maybe the gamer in your life just experienced a crushing defeat. Instead of telling your partner just to shake it off and get over it so you can go out on Valentine’s Day, maybe share an experience when you were defeated and how difficult it was for you to get back on track. If your partner seems open to it, you can also share how you were able to get out of your funk and get back on track in your life, not allowing the defeat to define you. There’s always an opportunity for you to connect with your partner, in victory or defeat, as long as you’re open to it.
Some gamers are very social, while others aren’t. If you’re a gamer who’d rather stay in, but you know your partner would rather go out to celebrate Valentine’s Day, come up with a plan that will make both of you happy. You can find an arcade near you and do an evening of gaming and food. Start the night at the restaurant that your partner has wanted to go to since it first opened and then finish the evening at an arcade playing old school games. Your partner can teach you all about their favorite dishes on the menu, and then you can teach your partner all about your favorite arcade games. Or, if you’re looking to save money, you can make a meal for your partner at home and then go to the arcade after.
You can also dine out, order in, or make a home cooked meal, and then cozy up on the couch after dinner to watch one of the TV series that are based on video games. This way your Valentine’s Day will still be gaming related, but it won’t revolve around playing video games. By compromising, you’ll both be able to make the most out of your Valentine’s Day experience together.
Help Improve Your Partners’ Overall Gaming Experience
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